englishivyrose
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« on: June 17, 2008, 03:29:33 AM » |
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Obesity runs on my father's side of the family. My father and his siblings are all morbidly obese. Several of their adult children are also either obese or have weight problems.I had Gastric Bypass surgery 9 years ago. Then I weighed 317 lbs. now I weigh 215. (I'm a 6 ft tall woman.) Besides maintaining the weight loss, now I exercise a lot and am much healthier. Since then my paternal aunt, and my mother have had the surgery, each experiencing a150 lb. and 100+lb. weight loss respectively.Within the last five years my brother has been placed on blood pressure medication and now gone from borderline diabetic, to taking insulin daily. He constantly lies about losing weight and says he is up at 5am to workout. I've never seen any results. His daughter wears a woman's size 16 petite and just turned 9. He and my sister-in-law act oblivious. Of their 3 boys only 1 has weight issues.What can our parents and I do to convince him he will die unless he has surgery?
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jonathanm
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« Reply #1 on: June 17, 2008, 08:45:38 AM » |
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tell him about his future diadvantages and hot skinny women
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« Reply #1 on: June 17, 2008, 08:45:38 AM » |
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melisnothere
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« Reply #2 on: June 17, 2008, 02:01:43 PM » |
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The worse thing you can do is convince someone to have a risky surgery they are already in fear of. What if he falls under the percentage of those who die from complications. He certainly isn't a healthy candidate. How would you feel if this happened. You are better served to educate him further on it's benefits and how it could change his life, not how it's changed yours. He clearly has a reason for not choosing the path you have and you need to address this concern rather than FORCE your concern.
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micheller
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« Reply #3 on: June 17, 2008, 07:17:48 PM » |
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Having gastric by pass surgery won't change the outcome. Yes, he may lose the weight for now, but he will gain it back sooner or later if he doesn't lose the weight for the right reasons. It has to do with attitude, and trying to tell someone that they need to lose weight makes them rebel. He knows he needs to lose the weight, but right now nothing is motivating him to do it. More time than not, some people who have this surgery, gain it back plus add even more weight. Losing weight isn't the issue, his mental health is. Maybe he should seek counseling to find out why he wants to abuse his body. Other than that, nothing you or your parents say will make him change his mind. Stop the nagging and let him decide on his own. He may never do it, but it is his choice.
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crackerjack
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« Reply #4 on: June 18, 2008, 12:33:53 AM » |
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Even before getting the gastric bypass surgery, your brother needs to change his lifestyle. He has to be healthy - eating well, exercising, and getting enough sleep. You can bring home brochures, pamphlets, etc on gastric bypass and leave it for him to read on his own time. There's no point in pushing him because he'll decide on his own/time. If you keep pushing and nagging him about it, he might just not consider the surgery to spite you all.
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